Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Week 7 - Faithfulness

{To Inspire and Encourage}

For the next few weeks I want to share a little study about the Fruit of the Spirit. 

there are many types of Faithfulness but today I am going to talk about
Being faithful to your spouse

You took the walk to the altar, why not trust them completely and only give your heart and body to him/her.
Here are some tips I found

Agree upon trusting one another. Once you have taken your vows, don't do anything to break that trust.
Accept the fact that you are no longer single. No, you may not come and go as you please, no matter how much that may rankle.
Understand that your spouse is not attempting to put you on a leash. It's simply a matter of honoring your commitment, and of letting your spouse know when to start worrying.
Wear your wedding ring at all times. Avoid taking the ring off in most situations, even if your friends tell you to. Some exceptions are when playing sport, washing the dishes or if it could be damaged or cause you injury on the job. Do remember to put it back on straight away!
Nourish your intimacy with your spouse. If either of you is experiencing problems with intimacy, talk it through – and the earlier, the better. Being intimate through loving gestures, hugs, kisses and sexual relations is a vital part of keeping the two of you bonded.
Don't stir up trouble where there isn't any. Doing hurtful things to see how your spouse will react is a bad idea.
Avoid even the appearance of wrongdoing. If you meet with someone who tries to come on to you and maybe even who is attractive to you, don't panic. Simply show no interest and say it clearly to that person. 
Tell any person who tries to lure you into an entanglement with them that you're not interested, period. Don't give a half-hearted "Gee, I'm really attracted to you, but I'm married" response. 
Take your spouse with you. If you know you'll be in a situation where you can't avoid a person who keeps coming on to you, take your spouse along. Knowing your partner is watching will keep you in line, and hopefully will deter any questionable acts on the part of the other person.
Leave the situation. It doesn't matter whether it's a job or a circle of friends. If you've tried your best to put the stops on the interest someone has in you - and worse yet, if you have started to return those feelings, you have to leave the situationimmediately.
Stay home. Studies have shown that men who cheat start spending time away from home, such as working late at the office, going out for drinks after work, etc
Make plans for your future together and revise these plans regularly. Be sure to not only plan, but to also do the exciting and amazing things you have planned together. 
Communicate! If you are feeling pushed away, due to lack of attention or contribution. Communicate those feelings to your spouse. 

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Eve of Surgery

It is the Eve of my surgery AGAIN- You can read the first Eve of Surgery here

I will be going to sleep at 8:00 am tomorrow morning, it may not be a long surgery but ya never know and ya have to be prepared.
I trust my doctor completly though so I know I am in good hands.

that being said, my mom asked me how I was feeling about it.. off course I am scared, worried of what may be found...
well it is something that I have needed done for 2 years, I am ready to get this party started.

I will be off work for a bit so hoping lots of blogging gets done

I will update when I can

Thank you for your prayers, well wishes and Get Well Soon's

You make me smile

Vacation 2014

I am so thrilled to tell you about our Vacation Plans this year..
We have never gone out of the country as a family of 3, Andrew and I have gone, I have gone alone but this year we are taking our little lady..
We leave
May 17 and drive to Vermont- staying for night one
May 18- We are crossing into Ontario to visit some friends - stay the ngiht
May 19- We are in Indiana to see friends- stay the night
May 20- We go on to Minnesota
May 24- Andrew's Birthday
We are driving, it is going to be so much fun.
I am excited to see my inlaw family, for Brooke to meet those cousins there and for us to hang out and have some down time with some family and new friends.
My Husband's family mainly live in Minnesota so we can see 99% of them while there.
It is going to be a great time, I would love to meet any of you that live in or near the area, drop me a line if you would like a visit :)

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Weekend Recap- Easter Version

Good Friday
Jesus died for us, but thankfully three days earlier he rose. 

We left home around 12:30 and we drove to my aunt's house which is about two hours away.. 
we stopped at the hospital to see this little guy 

Jaxon Wesley was born April 17- his mom and I grew up together, I spent the afternoon there with them while hubby and Brooke went off exploring.  
Then we went to the Keg for dinner, hubby keeps saying he wanted to take us so tonight we went and oh my Land, it was incredible... I ate my first steak, I am not a steak person but this was divine. 

This dessert was called "Billy Miner Pie" ~ Amazing!
We got to my aunts around 7 pm
played with my cousin's baby boys, we had so much. 

we decided we did not want the normal Easter dinner, so we decided this year we would have the first BBQ of the season- my aunt went all out.. there were all kinds of salads, steak, hot dogs, more salads, it was soooo absolutely amazing. 
I made this 
 I will share the recipe if anyone would like it. Such a nice hot summer evening recipe. 

We came home around 4 pm
is it weird that I love to hold my hubby's hand while we drive, we chat or just sit there, listen to music or the radio but I love the closeness of being in the car with my loves. 

I Love Easter so much, it is my fav time of the year- new birth, new life and a new hope. 
We went to church this morning, we had a lot of visitors.. here are some pictures from today 
My Mom gave Brooke this Easter tree last year and it was the perfect centre piece for the day. 

After the Easter 'bunny' came- she got practical things this year, she is getting to old for fun easter presents like bubbles, sidewalk chalk etc, so this year she got:
*sketch book
*hair bows- we love our hair bows
*M &M's
and there were a couple of other things but i can't remember and i don't want to walk down stairs 

We had 28 deer in our front yard today, here you can see 3.. I really like them being around

I went to service tonight and also had to serve in the Cafe, it was nice to work with some lovely ladies

My Girlie 

This Lady is my "other" mother- she is always just a text or a phone call away, she has taken me under her wing and I love her so much. 

My Girl and I- Easter is also the day we first bring out the white shoes, skirts  etc. 
Our Pastor sang a beautiful song this morning
Here is the link 

Tomorrow is a holiday as well and we have plans with a girl friend. 

How was your weekend

Friday, April 18, 2014

Good Friday

Friday but 
is coming

This is my all time favourite Easter song

Confessional Friday

May you all be blessed on this Good Friday
I am linking up with Leslie
Today I am confessing...
1) I am excited to get out of town for a few days to just relax and do a little of nothing, we are going to my Aunt's house about 2 hours away, i am happy to hang out with my cousin and her adorable baby boys.
2) I am thrilled to have (today)Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Monday off- us govt employees gets an extra long weekend :)
3) I have yet to buy Brooke some things for her Easter basket... sometimes I fail as a mother
4) It feels like this week was dragged on and on... but alas here it is, the weekend.

5) So thankful for my sister in law in Newfoundland, I ordered a bunch of clothes online and it got delivered to an old address I had 5 years ago, Why, no one knows.. she went and got it and re-sent it to me 

6) I love my house- last night we had 12 Robin in the front years and 11 deer in the back yard, I love it so much 

Thursday, April 17, 2014

A story to tug your heart

Today I want to share a story that hit close to home for me after my major lung surgery in 2010, we need to get this story out there and share it with as many people as we possibly can.

Meet Heather

In 2005 at the age of 36, just 3 1/2 months after the birth of her only child Lily, Heather was diagnosed with malignant pleural mesothelioma. At the time of her diagnosis, she was given 15 months to live, unless she took drastic measures. Well, here she is, 8 years later, minus one lung, a rib and half of a diaphragm, but alive and well. She is a cancer survivor, not only surviving, but thriving. Her and her husband Cameron Von St. James are passionate about mesothelioma awareness and patient advocacy. She was given a second chance at life, and she wants to give back as much as possible. Inspiring others, and giving them hope is what she loves.

1)How has this illness changed your life?

It changed it on an almost foundational level. Everything I knew, everything was, got torn away from me the minute I got the diagnosis. It all at once is the worst thing that every happened to me, and the best. So much good has come of it. I no longer care about the petty things, and am much more appreciative of the every day miracles.

2)What symptoms did you have

It started out with flu like symptoms, fever, heaviness in my chest, then came shortness of breath along with extreme fatigue and weight loss. I was losing 5-7 lbs a week.

3)How long did you have the symptoms before diagnosed

I didn't wait long… probably about a month from the onset of the first symptom.. I went downhill quite fast.

4)How can people know if they may have this?

If you think you were exposed to asbestos, a chest x ray or CT scan is a good start.. Mesothelioma usually presents itself as sore muscles, like a pulled shoulder muscle from the fluid build up in the chest cavity..along with fatigue, shortness of breath and sudden weight loss.

5)How can we support you?

By sharing my story, and video, and donating your social media status for the victims. .. Awareness is where it all starts.

6)What treatment is there

In the US treatment depends on your diagnosis, and what stage you are. Surgery is the best treatment, followed by chemotherapy, and radiation if needed. If surgery is not an option, palliative care is your best course.

7)Does the treatment pose any challenges for their condition?

Getting one lung removed is no easy task.. it changes everything. The chemo is well tolerated by most people, and radiation, depends on the type and how much, as to how it affects you. I'm not a medical person, and only know my personal experience… These questions might be better answered by an oncologist who specializes in mesothelioma.

8)What hidden blessings came with the disease?

All of the amazing people I've had the good fortune to meet because of this disease. My friend Ted says Mesothelioma is the shittiest way to meet the best people. (you can edit that if you want to!! Don’t want to offend anyone!!) My life is so much richer and deeper because of the wonderful people in the mesothelioma community… they are our greatest asset.

9)Have you ever been discriminated against due to your condition?

Not that I can remember. People are usually shocked to learn I have only one lung.

10)Has it affected your personality

It made me less selfish, and more open about my life. I used to be quite self absorbed… that went out the window when I got my diagnosis… I do this for the many meso warriors who are fighting.. awareness and prevention are key. It isn't about me.. its about the entire community.
Check out Heather's awareness page right here